Lately I’ve read several books (see below) about negative thoughts versus positive thoughts. Many times we don’t even realize how negative we can be.
Every day I write out a “to do” list on a white board. I tend to lose focus through out the day and this list helps bring me back to the tasks I wanted to accomplish that day.
But the problem is I rarely finish everything. Then I get down on myself for not being able to finish all my tasks. Even when I’m writing them down in the morning I feel a certain negativity towards the list.
Well, after reading one of the books it dawned on me that the word “task” or even the word “chore” has a negative meaning. I decided to look both words up in the dictionary.
Task: 1. Something hard or unpleasant that has to be done. 2. A piece of work assigned or done as part of one’s duties.
Chore: 1. A routine or minor duty or task. 2. A difficult or disagreeable task.
Duty: 1. An act or a course of action that is required of one.
Wow! No wonder I felt stressed out each time I wrote out my daily “to do” list. Not a very positive way to begin the day.
So I decided I needed a better word to describe the actions I wanted to take each day. The word I decided on is opportunity.
Opportunity: 1. A favorable or advantageous circumstance. 2. A chance for progress or advancement.
Now that sounds a lot more positive!
At the top of my list I write in big letters; Today’s Opportunities. Then I list what I want to do. I now see the list of things in a whole different way.
I have an opportunity to improve my health and body by getting on the treadmill today.
I have an opportunity to write a blog post to share my tips and insight with others.
I have an opportunity to bless my family by doing the laundry today.
I have an opportunity to bless myself by cleaning out some of the clutter because I deserve to live in a nice, uncluttered home.
So you see, by just changing one word it can help change how you approach the things you want to accomplish on your “to do” list. When you see that your actions have a chance to move you towards your goals it’s much easier to do them with a smile on your face.
If all you see on your list are the routine unpleasant actions that are required of you it’s hard to get and stay motivated to take the actions needed to complete them.
So this year a good resolution would be to recognize the negative words you use and find positive words to replace them. You’ll be amazed how something this simple can make such a big difference.
To a lighter load along the way.
P.S. Here are the books I’ve read about learning to be more positive. If you click on the covers it will take to you Amazon where you can read more about them.